tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2186797796234731983.post7108199746404422341..comments2024-01-23T15:17:03.848+02:00Comments on Beneath the Wings: "Have You Recovered?"rickismomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2186797796234731983.post-40393823397765729112012-12-13T11:29:52.392+02:002012-12-13T11:29:52.392+02:00What an insensitive thing to ask. You would think...What an insensitive thing to ask. You would think those in a medical situation would know better. People ask and say the cruelist things after the loss of a loved one. "Would you have wanted them to stay and suffer?"; "It is better this way."; "If they could tell you, they would say they are better off." Are you kidding me?? Life is never the same - never. It is forever altered. Yes, it goes on - but it goes on differently. I'm sorry you got "asked" if you are recovered. Wounds may heal - but there is always a scar.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2186797796234731983.post-21265622084221051792012-12-12T22:56:39.500+02:002012-12-12T22:56:39.500+02:00i remember being asked that after losing our daugh...i remember being asked that after losing our daughter 22 years ago.Most of the time, we are so shocked by people's questions and/or don't want to embarrass them that we kind of mumble an answer.22 years later, I can actually answer-"yes, things are different, but recovered-no!"One recovers from surgery, an illness but the loss of a child?! Come on people, think before you talk. A simple, sincere "how are you"-and to stop long enough to listen for the answer -is usually enough.perlsandnoreply@blogger.com